Former Egyptian President Mohamed Morsi Sentenced to 20 Yrs Without Parole

An Egyptian court has sentenced former Egyptian President Mohamed Morsi to 20 years in prison without parole on Tuesday for the killing of protesters in December 2012, in a decision broadcast on state television.

It was the first ruling against Muslim Brotherhood leader Mursi since the army toppled him in 2013 after mass protests against his rule.

Veteran Nollywood Star, Chinyere Wilfred Stuns in New Photos

Veteran Nollywood actress; Chinyere Wilfred has released new promo photos.

The fair skinned ageless actress stuns in the new photos with her happy smiles and flawless skin.

The actress who wore her hair tiny braids showed off looks scoring animal print tops,flowy skirt, detailed top in black and white and more. Photographed by Isaac Paul, the pretty actress was sprawled on the bed showing off her maxi skirt.

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Peace, Be Still : - Must Read

A colleague told me that he’s always been mindful of his kids’ sensitivity to any tension (between him and his wife) around the house and for this reason-he almost finds it difficult to join issues with his wife, even when he is the wronged party-he goes out of his way to make amends. Somehow, it seemed his woman began to push her luck at the slightest chance-because she knew he would want to mend fence as quickly as possible.

On this day, she started her usual drama; he lost it and decided to give her a piece of his mind. When he regained his cool-he looked around and mercifully -the kids were nowhere to be seen. So he decided to walk away from the scene by retreating to his study, he had hardly settled in his study when a particular knock he recognized so well as that of his daughter came softly on the door. When he opened the door, his little girl came into his study, stood looking at him for a while before saying (to him) ‘’Daddy, you have started talking like her. You know she is a ‘shout shout’ mummy’’

He told me that for the first time in his life, he allowed his emotions to overwhelm him in the presence of his daughter. The comforting hug that the little girl gave to him…he will never forget in his life time!

A lady in my group in church that is very close to me had issues that resulted into a huge row with the husband. When the tension at home became unbearable for her-she retreated to her parents’ house with her son. When her father sought to pick the little boy’s brain on what happened. All the little boy was able to tell the grandfather was ‘’he (his father) was calling us ‘ashawo’’’

You see, every other insult that the man hauled at his wife seemed to be lost on that little boy-except that very word, that he’s come to recognize as most degrading for a woman and to that boy, an insult to his mother is also an insult to him and that’s why his response was ‘’he was calling us (not just my mother-but us) ashawo’’.

There is a word of caution for parents here-especially those that are fond of using the kids as pawns during a conflict. Are you of calling your man names like "USELESS MAN' STUPID MAN" LAZY MAN". Deep down, these kids know who the aggressor is. Kids are just that discerning, it matters not how much you try running down your spouse before them-they are very capable of discerning who makes peace(in the house) impossible!

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The Business that Last - By Abraham Abolaji Oba

Hi,

My name is Abraham Abolaji Oba O.

The coordinator of my company and the whole team of fame-connet.

I would like you to benefit from.

On my way to the office early today, a word dropped in my heart which

"Money is not the result of business,impact is the Result of business".After this dripped into my heart I was like ,''what could it mean?",and someone on my inside said,'if you pop into any business
because you want to make money,if you can't make the money you want to make on time,you flush out of it".

Do you know that what makes you is not money? The wise makes money,Idea is what makes men. If you don't know this,you can never change level.

If money is what you earn by working,and what you use to buy things.
When you weren't having it,what happened to you?Dying? You made me
smile out!

**You need to get your mind  adhered to the truth that if you don't work,no money and If you are too money conscious,you will not make impact. This will help you to channel your energy to having a good success,which births the money that can never finish.

To give your business a lasting name,it must first affect the folks
around you and also beat the critics imagination.

**i don't mean that money will not come if you do your good business.
What I mean is don't run your factory with the foundation built on the
"I need money" syndrome. Its an illness of the poor minds.

Love is the only dependable foundation on which a lasting vision can be built.
What is business ? It is a specific vision well planned to achieve a specific goal.

Vision - the most valuable business ever,which affects the generations
after us if is built on a solid foundation.

Business is good! Anyone that will not do business will not be rich.
Its only the business minded that deserves to live to see tomorrow.

Can you see now that business is good? Yes it is! Cocacola ,Nestle,Rockcitygist.com,facebook.com ,Cadbury, Toyota ,and others are businesses ran to deposit good names on the stone of the earth.
What is the idea you are having? Give it a business approach and don't make  Money your focal Point . When you give yourself to what you are doing,Money will follow.

To be continued........

5 Steps To Seduce Girls - A Seduction Guide For Men

Seduction may or may not be one of your fortes as a man-there's but a hairline difference in looking like the perfect seducer from looking like the perfect maniac. Unknown to you, there could be a few things which she might find disturbing or insulting and instead of getting a kiss, you'll be surprised how you got a slap instead. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do prior to seducing a woman that can make you seem "harmless" to her. You might need to revamp your seductive antics before showing hints that you want to have a little "fun". How good are your seduction skills or techniques?

Here is a seduction guide for you to review on before meeting a woman-as well as seducing her.

1. Check on your hygiene. Before even attempting to go near a girl or approaching her, make sure you look like you came straight from your bathroom to get tidy and not from a junkyard where your hair is all over your face and your clothes are all soiled. Or even if you do come from the dustiest places, prioritize your neatness and hygiene. Make sure your clothes are ironed well and fresh. Remember the saying: clothes make the man. You don't need to don a Louis Vuitton suit. As long as you're neat and tidy, you'll be topping that girl's "check" list.

2. Be confident and witty. Now this is something that might require you to change your personality a little. If you observe players closely, a whole lot of them would look better with a paper bag over their heads, but how on earth do they get the most gorgeous ladies to date them? Simple! With a little confidence and wit, you too can win your way into a girl's attraction. Be humorous and talk sense around women-meat in things you talk about can keep them interested in you. Be confident when around a woman, and even if she looks like Cindy Crawford, don't show your nervousness. Just chill and everything will be easy from there.

3. Be seductive. This is probably the highlight of the every seduction guide. What's the best way to seduce a girl? By being seductive of course! But when you're in a bar, don't sound too seducing or the girls will think you're more of a maniac than a seducer. Talk about art, music, and other interesting things, sex included.

4. Play with reverse psychology. Sometimes, you will have to play a few mind games too and it's as easy as this: if you see a very beautiful woman and she knows it, don't look at her. Once she sees you with a lot of girls (whom you have entertained with your wit and interesting conversation, prior), she will most definitely want to know you. On the other hand, if the other players in the room are ignoring her, approach her and give her the attention she wants.

5. Turn her on. This will be a difficult task unless you have done things that could make her like you. For example, if you were confident enough and interesting during the first time you met, you will most definitely have an easy time turning her on. You will have to flirt to keep her wanting you, and you will have to find a certain way to make her comfortable as you slowly break the touch barrier.
A variety of techniques apply for various types of men-it all depends on their personality. Don't hesitate to look into another trusted dating and seduction guide such as Player's Dating Secret for seduction methods that could work well for you.

Remember, dating and meeting women should be a fun activity. Sometimes, you might go through tough instances like getting rejected, but don't get too affected or you'll miss all the fun.

ADVICE NEEDED: How Do I Payback My Cheating GF

Hello Mayowa,

I have a girlfriend whom I unexpectedly fell in love with her. Unlike my previous relationship I was 100% faithful to her and I mean it. I supported her with all her financial demands and I felt she was really in love with me because of the way she acted. I work on the rig and she is a student of Uniport in her final year, Whenever I was leaving for the rig for 3weeks, I left my car with her. several stories from people who claimed to be her friend told me how she kept gallivanting with my car and sleeping around, but I was not deterred. I even told my parents that I have found someone I was gonna get married to.

To be honest, she started acting funny towards me, not giving me time during the short period when I am around, and always coming up with excuses. Following from a tip off from an anonymous caller, she was in a hotel with her friend and a man she claimed to be her uncle. I got to the hotel (Le' Meridian) in GRA ph, went to the pool side and after having some drinks, I called her to find out her whereabouts, she lied that she was in school, but in less than 30 minutes she was downstairs with her friend (I supposed they just had a party). I confronted her and she lied. I got hold of her bag, and saw K-Y gel and condoms.
I have since walked out of the relationship, but it still hurts me. My phone still has her Unclad pics she sent to me. I am being tempted to do something nasty cos I am heartbroken.

Please advise Me Friends

Men ! Men !! Men !!! What Exactly Do Men Want ? ( A Complain Of A Bitter Lady )

 Halimah Sent this one in,

Men are so complicated , so confusing and so so hard to please !
If you try to please them ,
You're cheap !
If you love them ,
You're a love peddler or too emotional !
If you don't love them ,
You're playing hard to get !
If you give them attention ,
You're begging them !
If you don't give them attention ,
You're with other men !
If you demand for attention ,
You're a nagging woman !
If you didn't give them attention ,
You're not understandable !
If you dress sexy ,
You're attracting other men !
If you don't dress sexy ,
You're awkward or local woman !
If you cook and wash their cloths ,
You're desperate ,
If you didn't cook and wash their cloths ,
You're not a wife material !
If you're beautiful ,
You can't stay with one man !
If you're ugly ,
You're not up to standard !
If you're independed ,
You're chasing men away !
If you're depended ,
You're a liability !
If you're pregnant ,
You want to trap them !
If you're not pregnant ,
You're not a woman or might have damage your womb !
If you ask for money ,
You're too demanding !
If you didn't ask for money ,
You have other plans !!!!!!

WHAT DO MEN REALLY WANT ?

Are Ladies Supposed To Do The Searching Or Just Wait To Be Found? - By Worried Blog Reader

Are single ladies supposed to do the searching or just wait to be found / searched out?

Are single ladies supposed to go out and find their ideal man, or they should just keep on waiting for different men to come along, out of which they’ll finally choose which one is their ideal.

I then remembered the passage of the Bible which says: “Seek and Ye shall find”. I suppose those Words do not apply to only “spiritual issues” or perhaps just to daily needs like food, clothing and shelter.

It also crossed my mind, that in some Christian Churches, women are supposed to take the back seat – with so many Bible verses usually used to back up the ‘keep quiet and be sober because God created you as a woman’ doctrine.

But I also remembered that from the little stories we(I) heard, in the days of our parents, t’was the men that did the searching. In fact, for some of them, their parents did the pairing together(bethrowal / child marriage), and these kids grew up to understand that “she is my wife”, and “I will marry her when we are years old”. I wondered if our grand-parents knew the definition of “Falling in Love”. Perhaps they did / didn’t, since their own parents might have bethrowed them to one another. So the cycle could have continued on and on.

Whats wrong if a single lady does the searching? whats right if she doesn’t?

Your opinions are welcome. And just in case you have a story to tell, we are all ears.

ADVICE NEEDED: I Placed A Curse On My Ex-Boyfriend Who Messed Me Up, Now He Wants Me To Release Him!

 Please, I really need some advice. This is about something that happened to almost 11 years ago.

Hello Mayowa

Read my story:

It all began in 2002 when I gained employment in an organisation. And, in the course of duty, I got very close to a guy named Mike. I later got to know we lived in the same area and since he had a car, he was always taking me home.

In 2003, we still shared the closeness and I was beginning to get fond of him. I lost one of my parents and he attended the funeral alongside most of my ogas. It was after the burial he told me he loved me and would want to have a relationship with me. I asked him if he was single and he said yes.

I visited his home one day and saw some greeting cards from a certain Nike and when I asked, he said she was his ex. I asked him why he didn’t get rid of the cards and he said he just didn’t think it was necessary.
On a Sunday morning, I intentionally visited his home cos I knew he would be in church. I interviewed two of his neighbours and they told me he was indeed single. They said he used to have a lady but it’s been ages since they saw her and when they asked him, he said they’ve broken up. I was happy, thanked them and left.We started a relationship in March and I was happy cos I already had feelings for him. After three months, he came to visit my mum and told her of his intentions to marry me. My mum said no wahala and gave him her blessings. I had already told her about him and she knew I was happy with him

Imagine my surprise when I received a call from a woman in July and she said she wanted to speak with my guy. I asked who she was and she said she was his sister who just came in from Calabar. I was happy and told her I was yet to get to the office, but I will let him know once I arrive the office. I got to the office and excitedly told Mike his sister called me. He was surprised and asked to see the number. When he did, he said, but this is Nike’s number (his ex). I said, really? I called the number again and she said I should give Mike the phone. I handed the phone to him and he shouted, why did you call this number?

I went to my cubicle and my phone rang again. Nike told me, don’t think you have found a husband, Mike is my fiancee and in fact, I am 7 months pregnant for him. I felt as if my world would collapse. I couldn’t concentrate and when it was time for us to go home, I told him what Nike said. He said it wasn’t true and I told him, true or not, I am going to your house this night. He didn’t want me to follow him home, but I was adamant.

We got to his house and I saw a heavily pregnant woman. Immediately he barged into his house, he started beating her. He beat her and rained blows on her tummy. I’m sure if that pregnancy wasn’t heavy, she would have lost the pregnancy. After beating her, the woman pounced on me and tore my shirt to shreds. She started shouting, ha (Mike, I will destroy you).
She told me – You, you want to come and reap where you didn’t sow? When he was living in a room, I was with him and now that he lives in a room and a parlour, I want to enjoy abi? In my mind I thought, so room and parlour na enjoyment shey?

After the drama, I couldn’t go home that night cos it was too late. First thing in the morning, they started fighting again and I had to quietly leave for my house. I got home and my mum wondered why my shirt was torn. I lied to her cos I didn’t want her to worry.

The third day after the incident, Nike stormed my office, shouting, where is that husband snatcher? Where is Dupe? Husband snatcher oshi? Ashawo, prostitute? Before I knew it, a crowd had gathered and they had to ask her what her problem was. She told them she was Mike’s fiancee and I am dragging him with her.
My ogas had to tell her to go home and settle with her fiancee and stop disgracing herself in public.
Later in the day, they called Mike and me into the conference room and asked questions. Right before my eyes, Mike told my ogas I knew he had a fiancee and he told me and I insisted I wasn’t bothered, that I would be the second wife. I didn’t know when I started crying cos I never believed he could lie against me. He also told them I was always enticing him with gifts and money and that was why he decided to date me. I opened my mouth and couldn’t utter a word. I just started crying. My ogas who were women shouted at me to stop crying and defend myself. I told my ogas I had nothing to say, but one thing I know is that even if it takes ten years, we are all going to sit down again and Mike would confess he lied against me. With that, I stood up and walked out of the room.

When I arrived home that night, I ate my dinner and when it was 12 midnight, I went outside the house, removed all my clothes, including my pants and bra. I looked up to God and cried. I said, God, you are the father of the fatherless. You know my story with this guy called Mike. You know what others don’t know. If it is true I knew about Nike and still insisted on dating Mike, keep quiet about my issue, but if Mike lied against me, I want you to fight for me. I commit Mike, Nike and me into Your hands. With that, I went back inside the house, still crying.

Mike later resigned cos my male ogas were really on his case. They told him that if he could say I enticed him with gifts and money, then, he is not fit to be called a man. He had to resign when he could no longer bear the shame.

On the other hand, I am still with the organisation and that singular case endeared lots of my ogas to me. They really showed me lots of care. All these happened in 2003.
Fast forward to 2013, I received a call and it was from Mike. I was shocked and he told me he decided to call just to say hi. I was surprised to hear from him and I spoke with him warmly. 10 years is a long time to keep grudges I told myself. He asked for my BB pin and I gave him. Once in a while he says hi and I reply. I was surprised when in September last year, he pinged me and told me he needed to speak with me and it wasn’t a phone thing.

I told him to meet me at an eatery near my house. He came and he wasn’t really looking good. He said he came to ask for my forgiveness cos he lied against me and I told him, haba, 10 years and you think I would still carry your matter for head. I told him there was nothing to forgive. He now said I should bless him and that was when I told him to go back to the office and confess to those same ogas that he lied against me. He said he would never do that. I asked him, how is your wife? Does she know you are here? He said, no and I smiled. I told him, so you want to make amends and still want your wife and my ogas to think I am all you said I was. I laugh. I left him hanging and went home.
In October last year, I celebrated my birthday and one of my ogas, who works in a similar organisation as the one I work with, called to wish me a happy birthday. He said he would like to take me and my friends out for a drink or two at the weekend.

I agreed and during the weekend, he took us out. We were eating cat fish pepper soup when his phone rang. I heard him sigh and say, na wah o, what is this again?

When he dropped, he started a story about a certain Mike in his office. He said the man is so effective, but seems bad luck keeps following him. The name Mike caught my fancy and I asked for his surname. Lo and behold, it was the same Mike I dated. I was curious and asked him for more details. He said anytime anything good is about to happen to Mike, something happens and someone else is giving the goodies instead.

He said the latest one is the issue of a car he personally approved. He said the oga who is supposed to sign the final approval said he doesn’t want Mike to have the car, instead he gave it to someone else who was lower in rank to Mike. He said lots of good things that have evaded Mike. I didn’t tell him anything, I just kept quiet.
Last week, Mike sent me a mail and sent a text to my phone that I should check my mail. In the mail he said:

Dupe, continue to play God over my life. I know I made a mistake, why can’t you just forgive me? Why must you insist I go back to that office and confess my mistakes? What’s the big deal in forgiving me? We are fasting and praying in my church and one of the prophets that was invited told me to come and apologise to you and that you need to bless me to enable me move forward in life. Before this, I have been having dreams of someone asking me to come and beg you. Please, forgive me, but don’t tell me to go back to that office. Let’s bury the hatchet once and for all. I know you have challenges and I know you are still unmarried. What if this is because you have refused to bless me? Why don’t you forgive and bless me and see if God won’t turn your story around?

Now dear readers, this is where I need your advice. God knows I have forgiven Mike, but why can’t he just go back to the office and tell my ogas he lied against me 10 years ago? What’s the big deal in it? At the same time, I don’t want to play God over anyone’s life. Am I playing God by insisting he goes back to tell the truth

Please, advise me. Thanks.

Please Friends don't leave without dropping ur comment on this one, she sent me this mail last night. Kindly advice her and also send in your own story to gidistoriesads@gmail.com

STORY: When In Nigeria – Part 1

After 2 months of traveling around the world, I finally made it to this side of the wall; my motherland. I had heard a lot about Nigeria from friends but it was not enough. Although I was born in Nigeria, the only home I knew was France. I took my very first step in this country so I was no stranger to it. No one knew I was coming to Nigeria, not even my parents who lived in France and never encouraged me to come back home. As I stepped out of the plane; my feet on my mother’s soil, I knew I was home. I picked up my luggage, with nowhere in particular to go to, I headed for the exit sign.

I figured that the shoes I had on was the wrong one for this journey after I felt my weight begin to fall slowly on my left leg. I endured it for a while but when I began to feel everyone’s eyes on me, I knew my pain was now written all over my face. I sighted a young lady at the waiting area. She had a friendly face from the rest the ladies there . I approached her, hoping she would put an end to my misery.

“Please do you have an extra per of sandal I could borrow? Slipper will do also; please I just need to get off these heels.”

She smiled nicely, but I knew she was probably thinking who sent me to wear the shoes.

She starred at me pitifully and said, “Oh well today is your lucky day.” She went into her hand bag and handed me a slipper that was at least a side bigger than what I wore. I thanked her and gracefully collected the slippers. I annoyingly pulled of my killer heels and let my feet bare.

“Are you okay?”

“Yes, yes,” I answered, smoothing my toe nails with my hands.

“If that’s all, I will be going. My brother will be here in no time.”

“Please wait.” I gathered the shoes I was once wearing and hande

d them to her. “Please take this, I don’t know how else to thank you… please manage this.”

When she sighted the sole of the shoes, her eyes became Wilder.

“Are those…”

“Yes, and I want you to have them.” I left the shoes in her hands, picked my luggage bag and walked off like an injured lion. Now I needed a place to stay.

I boarded a taxi when I came outside the airport. After driving a long way off to no where and him stopping to pick up other passengers, the taxi man asked for his money.

“Sir, this is all I have right now.” I handed him a hundred dollar note. His once frowning face became brighter. Before the taxi driver could collect the money, a voice spoke up.

“Here is your money, no be 200 naira?” I turned around to see who was speaking. There were 3 other passengers in the taxi with me. I assumed that the man who was now digging his hands into his pocket was the owner of the voice I heard. He gave the taxi driver the money. The taxi driver hissed as he folded the money into his hands. I smiled back at the good Samaritan and he simply nodded his head. The taxi came to a stop and the young man stepped out, without thinking, I took off with him. I asked the driver to quickly open his trunk so I could get my luggage out.

“I didn’t get a chance to thank you.” I said, panting because I had to run after this man who was far gone. He heard my voice and stopped.

“I’m so sorry, I didn’t know you were following behind.” he offered to take my luggage from me.
“No I can handle this. Thank you for paying for my taxi fee, it seems since I got here everyone has been helping me.” My breathing finally became controlled.

“Hey, are you new to Nigeria? I knew it from the way I was looking at you in the taxi…” Clearing his throat, he continued, “you don’t seem to…”

“Fit?… yes.” We began walking.

“Are you here to visit family?”


“Well not really… No, I am all by myself.” I came in front of him. “Please is there a hotel you could lead me too. I’m sorry if I am burdening you but like you said…”

“Don’t worry about it, I will figure something out for you.” I smiled. We walked silently, daring each other to speak first. I took that time to carefully access him. He had on a simple shirt and dress pants with pan slippers. He was quite a handsome man. I admired the way his mouth curved into a smile whenever his eyes wandered on me. Every now and then, he caught me stealing glances at him which made my fair colored cheeks turn red.

“Are you hungry? I know a place around here where we can get something to eat.” I had forgotten that the only food in my stomach was the one I ate in the plane. I gently patted my stomach, nodding my head to his request.

“What part of Lagos is this?” It didn’t look like the part my parents had shown me of beaches while I was growing up. It was not the same as France obviously. The streets were crowded, everywhere was loud, not what I was used to.

“This is the heart of Lagos, everyone and everything you will ever need is here. Now, we are not the richest but we make it work.” I nodded, waiting for the waiter to bring the food we had ordered for.
After my plate of rice came, the scent of the stew opened up my stomach. His bowl of eba was placed in from of him and he wasted no time in washing his hands.

“You should try this,” he said, while swallowing. “you can’t live off just rice if you are going to be staying in Lagos for long.” I made no comment. Was I staying in Lagos for long? I shivered at the thought of that. I couldn’t imagine staying here for more than 2 weeks at the most!

When we finished our meal, I offered to pay. I had money, just not in the currency they used in Nigeria. He frowned saying, “With those your dollar notes; nah I got this.”

We left the restaurant and got to walking again.

“Can’t we get on a taxi to go to the hotel or something?”

“Are your legs hurting?” I was already too much of a burden to him so I said no.

“Yes we could get on a bus but…” He paused. He felt his trouser pockets. “don’t worry, it’s not a far walk.”
Truly, 10 minutes later we were at a very secluded area. I didn’t know if I should be scared. I had been walking with the stranger for most of the day on my own freewill. I somehow trusted him but it didn’t seem like we were anywhere close to a hotel.

I stopped walking; I figured I needed to be smart before I regretted ever trusting him.

“What’s wrong?” he halted too.

“I really appreciate you helping me all this while but I really which you would just get me settled in a hotel.”

“Oh.” he laughed. “Come on, I am not going to hurt you. I figured you’re not used to this place and taking you to a hotel will be even worse. I mean no harm.” I was still hesitant. He noticed the fear in my eyes.

“Okay, my name is Daniel. My house is a few blocks away. I am not going to bite you and if you don’t believe me, I can just leave you here and be on my way. No stress.” He bore my father’s name. I trusted my father and so I guessed I could trust another Daniel. I took a deep breath and a step forward.

“Small girl.” he chuckled.

TO BE CONTINUED…

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Adventures To Love - Episode 2

He dropped me off in front of the eatery where my sister wanted us to meet. We exchanged phone numbers and parted ways. I switched on my phone and to my surprise I notice I had a full bar. Then I remembered turning off my phone because of one stupid he-goat who kept disturbing me. I called my sister, Adeola almost immediately, knowing I would get showers of abuse on my head for coming late like I always did. Fashionably late is what I called it.

Anyway, let me introduce myself. My name is Adesewa Dixon and I’m a doctor. Yes, a doctor. I come from a family of six. I have 3 siblings; two boys and a girl and so four children in total.  My sister is Adeola, she is the oldest daughter of the family. I have an older and a younger brother too. Adeolu is the oldest and the first of the boys, leaving Adebolu as the last born. I’m the third born; Adeolu, Adeola, Adesewa, Adebolu. My parents liked the “Ade” part, so they decided to add it in all our names.

“Sewa, where you dey?”

As I heard my sister’s voice over the phone, I increased my walking pace.

“I dey front of the restaurant, I’m about to enter.”

Before going in, I whipped out my small mirror to check my face. I was surprised to see my MAC face beat I gave myself was still intact. I reapplied more lipstick, sprayed a half empty bottle of the Victoria Secret’s body perfume that I found in my never ending handbag and went in to meet my sister.

I spotted her sitting in the middle table, facing the door and a male figure sitting in front of her. I could not see his face but he was dressed in all grey Ankara attire.

“I’m so sorry I’m late,” I said as I approached the table.

I got closer to my sister to give her a hug and then turned to shake the hands of this unknown guy seating with her. As our eyes jammed, I almost let out a curse word. Under my breath I went, “Shit!” The guy was the furthest thing from a stranger to me; it was Chidi. I could not believe my eyes, it was Chidi Okoye. What was he doing back from the states, here in Lagos?  With my sister? I think I even asked those questions out loud.

I quickly put my hands down, turned to my sister to tell her I would see her later, but he held and pleaded for me not to go.

“Sewa, we have to talk.”

“Talk about what?” I said, quickly collecting myself so I don’t create a scene here in a public place.

“What is there to talk about? Ehn tell me Chidi. Should we start from the part where you cheated on me or no, let’s talk about the day you walked out?” All the anger that had been building up inside of me was finally coming loose.

It’s been a year and half since me and Chidi parted ways from the three years relationship we once had. We met in the states where I was doing my residency. He came in with a broken arm as I was on duty that night. We hit it off from then.

The break up was very painful and the mere thought that I wasted three years of my life on this guy was what kept eating me up. I remember my playlist during those sad days consisted of Waje’s song “I wish I didn’t have a heart” followed by the continuous raping of the reply button to Beyonce’s “broken hearted girl” I was depressed; luckily, I found closure in my work. And I finished my Residency, worked in an American hospital for almost a year before I made the huge move back to my mother’s land for good. So far I love Lagos; it’s a wonderful place to be when you have the money.

Anyway, I told my sister goodbye and left. I entered a taxi and went to pick up my car at the club where I had left it. The drive home was long and I did a lot of thinking. I asked myself what in the world Chidi was up to coming back? I even thought about the Bode guy I woke up at his place. “What a day, what a way to spend my day off.” As I pulled up into my house, I went in, had a snack, showered and went straight to bed. I watched African magic till I slept off.

TO BE CONTINUED

Will You Allow Your Spouse Borrow Money to Celebrate the Festive Season?

Another once a year festive season is here and for a fact, we all know that not having enough money to spend will limit the fun that we all would enjoy. In the light of this, ladies, would you allow your boyfriend/fiance/husband borrow money to celebrate the season?

Would you be willing to borrow to make your family happy, dear men?

ADVICE NEEDED: I Want to Stop Bleaching....Blog Reader Needs Your Advice Urgently

Hello GIDISTORIES readers, I need your advice..I want to stop bleaching. 

I'm 22, been beaching for the past 2 years now. If you see me, you wouldn't know I bleach, you will think I'm naturally fair. I use a very expensive cream my cousin in Paris sends it for me. It's very good - no hydroquinin, no mercury. I dont have dark knuckle from head to toe am flawless. I shine. If I get naked, even my friends admire me. I have been asked a number of time by strangers about the kind of cream I use. But not everyone can afford it. Thé reason I bleach is because I admiréd my cousin's skin and she introduced me to what I use now.

However, I am tired because my skin is getting thin and I am scared of thé future. Secondly, my dad has been complaining that he doesn't know why I want to be fair. Yesterday he took me out and showed me à woman in her 50's that has been bleaching for a very long time. She looked like à ghost I swear. I was so scared. He said that was what long time bleaching causes to thé skin. He said I was never black I should please go back to my natural colour. 

Please guys, I need to know if there is à good cream I can use to return to my chocolaté colour. I browsed online and the only one which seems ok was the cocoa butter cream and aloe vera and I want my chocolate colour to be flawless. Again, is it true that people who bleached before get darker than before when they stop? Please I need honest advice. Thank you.

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Some Very Silly Things Girls Should Stop Doing - By a Female Blog Reader

Hello Mayowa, I wrote this article some months ago. I shared it on an online forum and would like GIDISTORIES readers to learn from it. I just don't know why many of us indulge in these irritating behavior.

• Asking a guy you just met for recharge card

This is very annoying. It makes you look cheap. A guy met you in the afternoon, gave you a call in the evening and you are already asking him to send you a recharge card. Trust me, that guy can never respect you. He might eventually send you the recharge card, but the only thing on his mind would be
to sleep with you once or twice and get rid of you.

• Judging a guy by his looks

I believe guys should be the ones that should be hell bent on beauty and physical appearance. Dont fall for a guy chiefly because he looks good physically. You need to access his acumen, sense of judgment, level-headedness, dreams etc. What makes a good guy is by far more than just looks.

• Having sex with a guy the day you met him

This is uncalled for. You automatically lose some respect if you allow this guy to get down with you the first day you met him. Little kisses here and there and some cuddling would do, if you are tempted, let him feel your bosoms just to get yourself wet. The longer you make a guy wait, the more he will appreciate you and value your body. No one values what he gets easily.

• Pouting of lips to take a selfie

Do we have to do this? Its so disgusting. Okay fine, I am guilty of this too and am going to stop. Every picture of a girl on facebook shows her pouting her lips to look pretty. This doesn't make us look prettier; it only make us look childish. I didnt realise it makes me look like a kid until my boyfriend told me 5 days ago.

• Manipulating a guy to over spend for you on a date.

Because he looks rich and came to the eatery in a car makes you feel you can drain his pocket abi. This instantaneously tells the guy that you are a hungry girl and from a very poor background. Cant you just order for just one ice cream or a soft drink and be fine with this cool dude. Even if you do not like him, do not do this. Trust me, the guy will never call you again and if he does he only wants to get laid just once. The worst is taking your friend along so that you can both finish him.

• Forcing yourself on a guy that doesn't give a damn about you

If a guy likes you, he will show it. Dont you ever force yourself on a guy. You can indicate some green lights but don't force yourself on him. If you do he will treat you like poo. I have read some post here on Nairaland telling girls how to woo a guy. Dont try it. There are a million subtle ways to make him see that you like him than forcing yourself on him and asking him out outrightly.

• Keeping too many boyfriends

Cant we just be cool with one guy we love? 8 boyfriends equals to 8 Joysticks. Jesus Christ! How many guys are combing you?

• Excessive Make Up

Excessive make up make us look like masquerades, ojuju calabar like Tiwa Savage. Trust me, guys dont like girls with excessive make-ups. I have heard guys say it more than a thousand times how much they hate excessive make up on ladies. Look natural and if you must apply make ups, make it very lite. -

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Hello Laila, I wrote this article some months ago. I shared it on an online forum and would like TILB readers to learn from it. I just don't know why many of us indulge in these irritating behavior.

• Asking a guy you just met for recharge card

This is very annoying. It makes you look cheap. A guy met you in the afternoon, gave you a call in the evening and you are already asking him to send you a recharge card. Trust me, that guy can never respect you. He might eventually send you the recharge card, but the only thing on his mind would be
to sleep with you once or twice and get rid of you.

• Judging a guy by his looks

I believe guys should be the ones that should be hell bent on beauty and physical appearance. Dont fall for a guy chiefly because he looks good physically. You need to access his acumen, sense of judgment, level-headedness, dreams etc. What makes a good guy is by far more than just looks.

• Having sex with a guy the day you met him

This is uncalled for. You automatically lose some respect if you allow this guy to get down with you the first day you met him. Little kisses here and there and some cuddling would do, if you are tempted, let him feel your bosoms just to get yourself wet. The longer you make a guy wait, the more he will appreciate you and value your body. No one values what he gets easily.

• Pouting of lips to take a selfie

Do we have to do this? Its so disgusting. Okay fine, I am guilty of this too and am going to stop. Every picture of a girl on facebook shows her pouting her lips to look pretty. This doesn't make us look prettier; it only make us look childish. I didnt realise it makes me look like a kid until my boyfriend told me 5 days ago.

• Manipulating a guy to over spend for you on a date.

Because he looks rich and came to the eatery in a car makes you feel you can drain his pocket abi. This instantaneously tells the guy that you are a hungry girl and from a very poor background. Cant you just order for just one ice cream or a soft drink and be fine with this cool dude. Even if you do not like him, do not do this. Trust me, the guy will never call you again and if he does he only wants to get laid just once. The worst is taking your friend along so that you can both finish him.

• Forcing yourself on a guy that doesn't give a damn about you

If a guy likes you, he will show it. Dont you ever force yourself on a guy. You can indicate some green lights but don't force yourself on him. If you do he will treat you like poo. I have read some post here on Nairaland telling girls how to woo a guy. Dont try it. There are a million subtle ways to make him see that you like him than forcing yourself on him and asking him out outrightly.

• Keeping too many boyfriends

Cant we just be cool with one guy we love? 8 boyfriends equals to 8 Joysticks. Jesus Christ! How many guys are combing you?

• Excessive Make Up

Excessive make up make us look like masquerades, ojuju calabar like Tiwa Savage. Trust me, guys dont like girls with excessive make-ups. I have heard guys say it more than a thousand times how much they hate excessive make up on ladies. Look natural and if you must apply make ups, make it very lite. - See more at: http://www.lailasblog.com/2014/12/some-very-silly-things-girls-should.html#sthash.VG5wuNXk.dpuf

Ladies: Which Of These Men Would You Love To Come Across And Why?

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As a woman, you will find plenty of people from the opposite gender being attracted to you at various stages in life. Whether you like it or not, you meet some uninteresting and rather weird kind of men on a daily basis. And then there are also those occasional charming men, who make you feel like a princess. Variety, after all, is the spice of life. And each woman will agree that all men (despite being the same in terms of physical needs!) have distinct qualities that make them different from each other. Here are some types of men a woman will always come across in life.

1. The Nerd
He is the one who is about all things geeky. He is either a Science student, busy trying to invent something great or trying to make the world a better place to live in, or is a heavy Arts or Literature student interested in all things History or Geography. These kinds of men are really hardworking and sincere. Even though some of them may not be really bothered about the way they dress (but they definitely know the importance of hygiene and looking presentable!), they are good at heart and always try to keep their girl happy. Just that they can’t understand mushy things, and usually need direct talking.

2. The Hunk
He is the hottie on the campus! He is also the best looking guy in your office who smells good all the time and has a unique sort of charm about him. Such guys can make girls go weak in the knees and have a great sense of style in everything that they do. While some humble ones feel shy and uncomfortable when women drool over them, there are others who are aware that they are super hot, and hence, become quite flirtatious, taking advantage of the female attention that they get.

3. The Hippie
He is the artsy guy, who doesn’t really care about the world and his surroundings. He has his own philosophies, and only few people can actually feel comfortable in chilling with him because he is not the conventional guy who likes going out for dinners or movies. Some women feel disgusted by such men, who sometimes don’t even bathe for days together, while others find them really sexy.

4. Mamma’s Boy
He’s the one who has done everything in life properly – from scoring good ranks to being the leader in all sports teams to getting the perfect job. He is the one who respects his family and will never go against his mother. Even if he likes a girl, she has to be someone who will be able to please his mother and keep her happy. Such men are cute, but can sometimes turn out to be quite suffocating with their over-perfect habits.

5. The Success Digger
He’s struggled hard to be where he is, and will keep struggling all his life to be at the top. He is a workaholic, and is essentially a good-natured man. But he forgets that life needs some relaxation too, and needs to be reminded about that every now and then. He likes women who are supportive, and take part in realizing his ambitions and dreams

6. The Chocolate Guy
His cuteness surpasses and overpowers everything else about him. He is the typical good-looking guy who can make girls go crazy. His innocent mannerisms can make you all ticklish in the tummy! What kind of a girl does he like? Well, it takes a lot of time before you can figure out his tastes, but most such guys fall for the conventional pretty girl, who is good at heart and loves to care and be loved back.

7. Everyone’s Favorite
He is the life of the party and is the guy who knows everybody, and is also known by everybody. He has endless amount of friends and is good at keeping conversations interesting. He always has great stories to tell and is the one who makes everyone laugh. Such guys are good at heart and usually very possessive about their girlfriends.

8. The Womanizer
He wants women around him all the time. Whether at work, or at a party, he is always cracking jokes about women and also checking them out. He loves watching Indecency, and is like the Barney Stinson of everyone’s life. While most such guys are like this because of a bad past where someone has broken their trust and walked out on them, there are others who are just born this way! Either way, be careful of this lot.

9. The King-Size Life Lover
He earns well and lives life to the fullest. Usually, such men do not believe in the concept of saving money and are seen spending all of it on parties and buying expensive things. While they can make other people envious with their interests and possessions, they may not make for very stable life partners, as they like to lead a happy life free of troubles. They aren’t very good with handling crisis situations and avoid getting close to people who feel low or depressed in life.

10. The Hidden Dynamite
He is that polite guy, who soon becomes a great friend and likes you just the way you are. Friendship with him grows stronger and deeper everyday because you enjoy conversations with him, and soon you realize that he’s a gem of a person. He’s the guy who seems absolutely compatible and makes you wonder why all guys are not like him. At first, he appears like a casual and ordinary guy who doesn’t talk much, but once he gets along well with you, you realize that there is so much more to him than what you had initially thought. These are those who fall in the category of best friends turning into life partners.
To pick the right man for yourself is not an easy job. You obviously have to take into account a lot of things. However, it’s always nicer to be aware of the kinds of men that exist and be prepared about what they might expect from you. Information of any kind, after all, never goes waste!

Oya Ladies bend down select your choice..kisses

10 Weird Things Men Find Attractive in a Woman - Check them Out

I know we’ve done this a lot this week. But, just when I decide to catch a break from all these “10 This” and “10 that” articles, I see another interesting one, and I just can't look the other way or refuse to share it with y’all… lol.. Forgive me….. *wink*


1. Seeing her undone (hell yeah !)

 
While most men appreciate when women make the effort to look gorgeous through doing the makeup, dressing nice or fixing the hair, they find it attractive if they see her a mess as well. A lot of guys tell that this helps them know a woman better. They get to see her behind the nice clothes and makeup up.

2. Her accent
Almost every woman is embarrassed by her accent. I didn’t like my accent but I’ve learned to embrace it over the few years. The great news is that men like a woman’s accent and find it really attractive. No matter if you have an accent from the inner city or the south, it can be attractive to your man. I’m sure your accent is nice to listen to, so make sure you embrace it.

3. Seeing her afraid
Another weird thing men find attractive in a woman is fear. I thought it was terrible when I first read about it. A man wanted his woman to be afraid? This was the first question that had crossed my mind. However, then I realized why men find fear attractive. The thing is, a man doesn’t want to wish deep fear on a woman but when he sees her a bit scared, it gives him the chance to comfort her and show he is a real man.

4. Stretch marks (hian !!)
If you’ve had children by your man, you don’t have to worry about stretch marks. Although most women are not happy about stretch marks, most men, including your partner, love them. Stretch marks remind your man of the fact you carried his child. Trust me, he really appreciates it.

5. Camo (huh?)

Some guys find camo attractive on girls because it means she could be his best hunting buddy. But it doesn’t mean that you should wear camo every single day. Even though men find camo attractive on a woman, they still love cute dresses and nice skirt. Feminity is still important.

6. Glasses ( I feel like Honesty will relate with this..lolz)

Guys love to see girls in glasses and it’s true. My sweetheart has always told me that he liked to see me in glasses and my sister’s partner feels the same way. If men find a woman that wears glasses attractive, why not throw away those contact lenses? I think this is wonderful news for girls who wear glasses every day.

7. Watching her apply makeup (weird indeed)
Did you know your guy likes watching you apply your makeup? It amazes him how precisely you can do this. Guys also seem to be astonished that every girl has her own style with the makeup. So, ladies, feel free to check your makeup in front of your man.

8. Her towel head (really?)

One of the strangest things that most men find extremely attractive in his woman is when she washes her hair. They say that a wet hair look, especially if the hair is long, and the towel head is turn on for them. Well, it’s weird, but who knows maybe your sweetheart also loves your towel head.

9. When she works out

Men love it when a woman works out. That tired look and the sweaty feeling attract most men instantly. Perhaps you don’t find it attractive, but your man won’t want to miss this look. So don’t be afraid to work out in front of your partner. The best option is to work out together.

10. In his shirt

 
The weird thing that men find attractive in a woman is when she’s dressed untidily in his favorite shirt. To most men, it’s a really designer look. From personal experience I can say that my man loves when I wear his shirts.

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Advice Needed: I am In Love With My Friends Ex-Girlfriend

Hello,

It happened that 9 years ago my friend broke up with his girl friend. And after that he moved on, went to the UK and got married afterwards ( he has two kids now, his wife is in the UK, he is here in Nigeria). I was a friend to his girl friend even after they broke up and maintained contact ever after though we were loosing contacts in between then. 

Fast forward to 3 months ago, we started seeing, hanging out and enjoyed each other's company, maintaining the fact that we are good friends. Of late, we both have recognized that we have got feelings for each other and love each other. She is all I want in a woman. I haven't proposed to her yet. But when I think of proposing to her, I have mixed feelings like letting my friend down. Question is? ........ 

Should I let my friend into the know? Should I go ahead and propose her or not? Advice Needed. 

 I Am Just so worried considering the relationship with my male friend cos we still hang Out

NB: Me maintaining a friendship with her caused a rusty relationship between me and my male friend, her ex-boyfriend. Though we still see and hangout when need bé. - See more at: http://www.lailasblog.com/2014/11/blog-reader-needs-your-advice-urgently_25.html?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=tumblr#sthash.0GHMFmSB.dpuf

Some people say it is a violation of privacy. But do you consider it disrespectful, guys, if your wife/hubby/GF/BF/Fiancée/Fiancé reads your new SMS before passing it on to you? -

whats your view on this one?

Some people say it is a violation of privacy. But do you consider it disrespectful, guys, if your wife/hubby/GF/BF/Fiancée/Fiancé reads your new SMS before passing it on to you? - See more at: http://www.rockcitygist.com/is-it-disrespectful-to-read-your-spouses-text-messages/#sthash.zicWjoFc.dpuf

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Adventures To Love - Episode 1

 

“Abeg o, na God I use take beg… mama Nneka leave me this morning.” I was awakened by a vague unfamiliar voice. I thought to myself, who left my television on at the crack of dawn? PHCN bill go high this month. A little chuckling at myself had me coughing. I could feel the warmth of the early morning sun on my face. STOP! Where am I? A question I could not answer. I opened my eyes slowly trying not to get blinded by the rays of vitamin D. To my surprise, I saw a huge flat screen TV staring down at me. Last time I checked, I no get flat screen way big like that. Oh my, this wasn’t my room… not my bed, and definitely not my house. 

 

“Good morning beautiful.” A deep Barry White like voice with a mix of Boj said behind me. I could tell the beholder stood far away because it almost sounded as if I was dreaming. “How was your night?” I could tell I was not dreaming as the voice sounded more firm and a tad bit familiar.

A little squeal escaped from my mouth as I tried faking that I was still asleep. I said to myself, “Adesewa, what have you done?” I turned around to answer the question. I noticed how soft the bed was, the feeling of silk on my skin was amazing, and … what? I still have my clothes on from last night. A flash back of a typical Friday night in the streets of Lagos, “chopping life” as my friends would say came flooding in. I drank too much… “Chai Sewa, Adesewa” calling my name in my mother’s mannerisms.

“I said Good morning.” The deep voice was much closer now. I tried getting up, it was awful; the worst hangover ever. My head felt as I had been in one of those Yoruba movies beat down with those their fake punching sounds. It hurts; another squeal escapes again, this time much louder.  “Here, drink this. It will relief the pain.” As I look up, Omo e be like say na statue of a Greek god I dey see so. I wiped my eyes but no difference… The bros fine die.

My jaw dropped and from the feel of things e be like say headache waka commot! I cupped my hand to receive what he had to give me. I was already drooling at the sight in front of me. Tall, dark and handsome. Every girls dream well except mine. I like them lighter. But truth be told he was good looking.  I collected the bottle of pills, read the name on the bottle and surveyed it before taking them.

“My name is Olabode Thomas but you can call me Bode.” In my head I was trying to figure out where the nearest exit was so I could sprint out like Usain Bolt.

“Hi, Sewa.” I said as I got up, looking for the other pair of my new Christian Louboutin spikes shoes that came in last week from the states.  I held the other pair close to my stomach that was making all sorts of sounds.

“Here you go.” he handed me the pair I was looking for. How I must have looked, looking for the shoes with a grumbling stomach. How sexy abi? Here I was in a stranger’s house, trying to get my things together and I was totally ignoring this Greek god standing two feet away from me. I could feel his eyes focused on me and him imagining, “Wetin dey do this babe?”  I grabbed my bag and shoes and headed for the door.
“Whoa! Wait, have something to eat before you go, I can drop you off later.” He cuts in front of me.
“No thank you, I think I have over stayed my welcome.”

“What welcome? Well I haven’t even welcomed you yet.”
“I’m sorry I intruded on your privacy, I’m sure your family will be very upset. I’ll take my leave quietly.”
“Oh… I stay here by myself, this is my house.”

“Thank you for yesterday. Mr.?” I tried to remember what he called himself.
“Call me Bode. I tried to get your address so I could drop you off but you fell asleep.”

Finally, I gave in to this guy oh. Did I mention how fine he was and how ripped he was? E be like say na him house them build gym put. I followed him out of his bedroom to a gorgeously decorated living room. He led the way further into his dining area.  He pulled out a chair and gestured for me take a seat. I was wondering what type of scope he wanted used on me. I had seen way too many but this one was definitely not familiar. Trust my ever ready brain to start shooting for ideas. He set a tray on the table and served me. Impressive wooing skills. I looked at him, amazed. He gestured for me to eat, I did and the food was delicious. I chop like say I never see food before for my life.

After thirty minutes of talking to this guy about last night, I looked at the time and yelled. “I’m dead!” I totally forgot about the meeting I had with my sister. She would kill me.
“What’s wrong?” he asked.

“I have to go… I have a meeting.”
 
“Let me drop you off.” he was the first to get up.

I had no other choice but to say yes because I had left my car at the club last night.
“Okay, thanks” I said

He went to collect his keys and we headed out.

TO BE CONTINUED